To fight or not to fight abusive relationships   Leave a comment

One of my patients raised a searing question. Why did his ex-wife, his children, and his own siblings seem to hate him. “I must be doing something,” he said. Not really, I told him. Your family simply feels better by making you feel worse. They detect your vulnerability and project their own sense of inadequacy and insecurity onto you. They need to abuse you so they can feel better.

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